If You Are An Introvert, Don't Force Yourself To Be An Extrovert

Growing up a nerd as a kid I was pretty shy for the most part. I didn't see a need or even a want to be part of the "cool kids club" that existed. All I wanted to do was be happy and make those around me happy. I preferred (and still do) to let my actions speak louder than words.

While I did play recreational basketball, cross country, and football (which was all fun) I found more pleasure being inside and playing video games. Pre-adult life the most extroverted part was being a band geek in high school. I'll never forget being part of the era where the movie Drumline came out and I ironically (predominantly) played the quads/quints in band.

I would not trade any of those experiences for anything. I made a lot of friends through mutual interests. Nonetheless, being an introvert felt like second nature to me while being an extrovert seemed more like a hassle. I thought that I socialized a lot, yet most of my friends and peers during the time labeled me as a quiet kid/teenager. I never understood the latter, but I didn't force myself to be more social than I already was.

Being an introvert is not about excluding everyone from your own personal bubble, but simply enjoying your own personal bubble as you see fit. The older I get (which I am not old yet... no grey hairs are insight thankfully), the more I find myself staying at home or in a central location with a few friends. My partying, going to the clubs, bar crawling days are pretty much over. A nice mug of coffee, whiskey, or wine, and some good books sound way more exciting than my regular weekend schedule during my college days. 

Even as an adult now I have become more of an introvert than I was as a kid/teenager. There are some days when I have no problem hanging out with a ton of people/friends. On most days I love being in my own bubble enjoying the work that I do, playing video games, and watching Hulu/Netflix/streamers on Twitch. More times than not, I will spend the entire day in my pajamas if I do not have to run any errands outside (perks of working from home are amazing)! 

At the end of the day, if you are a natural introvert, don't try and force yourself to be an extrovert. No one (even me) has made it a law that you have to be one or the other. You can be both if you want to or more of an introvert than an extrovert. If I was to make a percentage margin, I would consider myself an 80% introvert and 20% extrovert.

What is most important is that you are happy with yourself. If those around you (family or friends) try to make you someone you are not... it is best to keep your distance from them. I am going to send you all off with one of my favorite TED Talks featuring Susan Cain discussing the power of introverts.

Have a great day/afternoon/evening/night/week/whatever it is at the end of you reading this! :)